Free · private reflection

What helps you feel connected?

Explore the forms of care that tend to land most strongly for you — attention, words, help, affection, or thoughtful gestures.

Different preferences are not a scorecard. They are a practical starting point for clearer requests and more generous attention.

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After a difficult day, I feel most cared for when someone…

1. Answer honestly
Choose the response that feels most like you lately, not the one you wish were true.
2. See your pattern
Your result is calculated locally and appears as soon as you finish.
3. Use it as a prompt
Keep the useful parts, discuss them with care, and leave the rest.

Can I have more than one preference?

Absolutely. This result highlights what you selected most often, not the only ways you receive care.

Does this replace a conversation?

No. Use it to make a specific request, then stay curious about what feels meaningful to your partner too.

Is it saved?

No. This assessment runs in your browser session and is not sent to our servers.

A result is a starting point for a better conversation with yourself or someone you trust — not a label you have to live inside.