Practical, non-clinical guides for getting through a breakup, a betrayal or a divorce — one day at a time.
Not a cure and not a timeline — a shape. What to do in week one, week two and week three, and how to tell that something is working when nothing feels like it is.
Read articleThe first weeks after discovery get all the attention. This is about months three to eighteen — the triggers, the trust damage, and what recovery actually looks like when the crisis is over.
Read articleBeing cheated on is two injuries at once: losing the relationship, and losing your trust in your own judgement. This is how to work on the second one.
Read articleTrying not to think about someone is the one instruction the brain cannot follow. Here is what to do instead of suppression — and why the 3am loop is so hard to break.
Read articleNo contact is not a tactic to make them miss you. It is a way of giving your nervous system enough quiet to recover — and it works far better when you stop treating it as a game.
Read articleA plain, unhurried list for the days when deciding anything feels impossible — what to do first, what to leave alone, and what will make next week easier.
Read articleDenial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance — the famous five were never meant to be a schedule. Here is what grief after a breakup actually looks like, and how to tell progress from a bad week.
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